Sunday, October 30, 2005

Friendlationships Part 1

Friendships and relationships can be a difficult thing for most people. Today I taught on this topic in Milestone at church. As I sit here and reflect on what was discussed during class it makes me feel good that I am married. I do not miss the confusion and anxiety often associated with relationships. I was never really good at dealing with the opposite sex when it dealt with relationships. I had a lot of friends that were females. No problem there. It was easier me to have friends that were from the opposite sex. The problem I had was going from the friendship to the relationship. During my time at Heartlight Ministries at was able to practice a couple of times trying to make that transition. (I thank those of you that gave me that opportunity, you know who you are, I doubt that you are even reading this blog, anyways....) it has made me who I am today and it made me a better person. I think. So anyways back to the whole friendlationship thing.
Often time churches take to positions on dating. 1) Dating is not relevant because it did not exist in the Bible and 2) Anything goes in a relationship as long as you don't have sex. The first position is outdated. Society equates dating with love and vice verse, so I won't even touch on that subject. The 2nd position is the position that churches need to work. There are all kinds of NO SEX before marriage programs out there. Individuals need to realize that there are many things which do not belong in a relationship until one is married. The giving of you emotional and spiritual self should not be given away freely.
I have had several relationships where I have given to much away. It makes for the break-up to be much harder than would it should be. Often times break-ups tend to be bitter and not nice at all. It shouldn't be this way, specially if you are a Christian. It is a time for a change.

Sunday, October 23, 2005


So today I decided to clean out (start putting away) our belongings in the garage. Because you know that winter is just around the corner and it would be nice to be able to get one of our vehicles into the garage. I spent about 2 hours putting things away. I'm trying to put things into there place but I really need to build some shelves but I don't really want to spend the money doing it since we are renting and do not own this house. I am also in the process of replacing the bath tub spichet. It currently won't send any water out of the shower head so I have been taking baths for the last three weeks. It's not that I mind taking a bath but I puts me to sleep in the morning and I just feel like spending the morning in there.
I am going to find out tomorrow if there will be an opening at the high school. I hope there will be I am tired of not knowing where I will be working.
Delilah mentioned that she wants to go back to school and get her masters in education. I really think she do it. I think she would be a great teacher. And besides what can you do with a Psych degree?
Stay tuned for more in the future.

Wednesday, October 19, 2005


I wish I was able to work my day shift as a permanent position. It is nice being able to be off work at 3 pm. Today I took Jude and we went to Crown Point and made a few other stops on the way back home. We were back before 6 pm. It felt nice to be able to go run a few errands and still eat dinner at a regular time.
I am looking for a part-time position somewhere. I would rather work 2 jobs and allow Delilah to stay at home with the children. It has been a hard adjustment for Jude specially when he has to wake up at 6:30 to go to the baby sitters house.

Friday, October 14, 2005


It has been a while since I have last posted. It seems that every time I sit down to type I get interrupted with something. I found out today what my hourly rate will be as a custodian. I was not sure what it would because of being bumped from my temporary position. But now I know what it is going to be and now we can start to make some plans. I am extremely tired today. I think it is because I am use to staying up till about midnight but this entire week I have been starting work at 6:30 in the morning instead of at 3 pm. So I am still staying up till about midnight and waking up at 5:30 am. If you know anything about me it is that I require my 7 1/2 - 8 hours of sleep. This is a short post today, but I just wanted to do a quick update.

Saturday, October 08, 2005

Smelly is gone

It's official. The smell is gone. We had to pay some guy $150 to take our freezer and the smelly meat inside of it. He was only here for no more than 15 minutes. Pretty good pay if you ask me. I don't think we had much of a choice in the matter. For now on we will buy new appliances when we need them. Besides having some type of guarantee of not breaking down they are also more efficient.

Wednesday, October 05, 2005


My claims guy from Erie Insurance called today to let me know some information about my accident. He let me know that the car might be close to being totaled. He said that it basically depends on what Klaben finds under the hood and how much damage has been done to the engine. He didn't say how long it would take to find out. Hopefully not long. I can't wait to find out so we can have some closure on the vehicle situation. Speaking of vehicles....... I think I might call enterprise and try to get a Ford Focus to drive. I can not stand the Chevy Cavalier.

I recently worked at the high school and one of the custodians found a "loaded" condom in the wrestling room. Now, if I have to explain the term "loaded" well this will have to take place another time. I can't believe what students do today. The vast majority of students live for today and don't concern themselves about the future. I suppose I was kind of like that when I was in high school.

Monday, October 03, 2005


Today was my first time home alone with the children while Delilah went to work. It wasn't so bad. It really helped that Elise slept till a little after 11 am. I gave her a bath (the first I have given her). I don't think she liked me giving her a bath though. She cried a little bit and looked at me like she was trying to say "Daddy you don't know what your doing do you?" I made it through the bath ok. Jude was fairly good. I was trying to get him to take a nap before Delilah got home so she could have some down time but my plan didn't work out.

I am still tired from this weekend. The move took a lot out of me. It will probably take a few days for me to recover. I got our rental car today. It is a Chevy Cavalier. I hate Chevy's. I think I might call them to try and get a different car. Maybe like a Ford Focus. They are kind of fun to drive. Up to this point I havn't heard what the total damage is to my car. It looks pretty messed up. I think I will take a few pictures of it and post it on "the Launch".

Sunday, October 02, 2005


Well it is now night 2 in our new house. Everything seems to be going well. I've been pretty much watching the children and keeping Elise from crying and Jude from whining. Delilah is doing getting a lot done. Much thanks to the moving team. With out you guys our move would have taken forever. It seems however we have lost one box somewhere. It has our alarm clocks and nightstand lamps in it. Hopefully it will show up eventually.

After church today we went to lunch with a few of our freinds. I was scheduled to show Tim and Steph's apartment today to 2 people at 2. I left the keys to the aparment back at our house. So Jude and I drove back to the house after lunch to get the keys and then go to the apartment. Well, on the way to our house I rearended a Jeep Grand Cherokee. The 3rd car in front of me was making a left hand turn and everyone checked up real quick. I didn't stop in time because I was distracted with other things. (Talking to Jude and looking in my rear view mirror). So needless to say I never made it to the apartment. I am a little sore tonight but I'm not sure if its from moving or the accident.